What destroyed our marriage was mid life crisis. Exatly the day he turned 48, he bought new BMW. Few days later he bought red sofa in house. He went for hair transplant. But I didn't expect that he will divorce me! We were raising 4 kids together like brady bunch. He found a young girlfriend and became a sugar daddy. I was devastated. He sticked around for couple of years visiting kids but than vanished completely. He start dressing more like Elvis and it was apparent that he is working hard to enjoy life. I went into depression hitted with couple of bad accidents under influence of all crazy anti psychotics. It was a hard time. Eventually kids grew out and moved on their life. I learned to live my life finding hobbies of dancing and knitting. I tried to date 2/3 times but found same shade in those men. 16 years passed by....I didn't see my ex ever in those years.
And yesterday suddenly we bumped in one community fair. I didn't recognised in first glance. He was bald again. He appeared very old. Tons of wrinkles on face. He was walking with a cane. I guess he developed bad hip. I called his name. He looked at me. Tears came in his eyes. He put hands on my shoulder. He tried to say something but than walk off without words. He seems very alone. I wish he would have talked to me. I wanted to tell him that I still value our 10 years of marriage more than anything but I guess words have lost meanings. I came back to a lonely house.
So watch yourself! and don't let any young chick at strip club or craiglist plunge you into deep ditch of mid life crisis. It kills people and their loved ones from inside.